In this article I plan to write about the Christian arguments against gay marriage. Practically everyone in the mainstream media seems to be discussing why gay marriage should be legalized, but in this article I plan to offer my own Christian thoughts on the gay marriage debate.
My perspective is derived out of being the pastor of a Christian church in the rather liberal state of California, USA. I am a conservative, Bible-believing Christian. By that I mean I hold to a literal view of the Bible and believe it to be the sole authority in both life and eternity—for all people—regardless of their current sexual lifestyle. The Bible is the exclusive Word of God, without apology. The Bible alone provides God’s thoughts, commands, and expectations for marriage—which is between one man and one woman—and I am convinced it provides both clear and sound arguments against gay marriage.
Christian Thoughts on the Gay Marriage Debate
Does that mean that I or other Christians should hate, despise, persecute, or simply ignore people who are gay or lesbian? (That is, who willfully choose to practice a homosexual lifestyle?) Of course not.
Do I believe the Bible teaches that a homosexual lifestyle is a sinful lifestyle? Yes, I do. It falls within the realm of sexual sin, which countless heterosexuals fall into as well when they willfully choose to commit sexual fornication, premarital sex, adultery, masturbation, lust of the mind, harlotry, pedophilia, bestiality, internet pornography, etc. Yes, the list of sexual sin is a lengthy one and we live in an era today where the list of sexual sin continues to grow and the numbers of people involved in such sinful activity is increasing at an alarming pace.
It is February, 2014. Gay Marriage is all that seems to be on the radio, in the newspapers, covered by the local news, and voted on at both the federal and state levels of government. In fact, it even dominates the headlines surrounding college and professional athletics.
But the gay marriage debate (and homosexuality in general) is closer to each of us than that. Even for those of us who are Christian as well. Here are a few examples of what I mean.
- I had an uncle who suffered greatly and eventually died of AIDS nearly twenty years ago. He lived an openly homosexual lifestyle in San Francisco, and the repercussions of his sin led to his untimely death.
- Recently I went to Starbucks for an iced coffee (I really, really enjoy my iced coffee, by the way). There was a lesbian couple sitting by me at a nearby table. They kept touching one another, hugging, and even kissed once or twice.
- Also recently, I was eating at a fast-food restaurant. There was a group of about a dozen high school students talking, just being kids. One of the boys said to his friends, “I can’t decide if I’m gay or just bi-sexual.”
These three examples demonstrate that gay men and lesbian women are all around us, that they come in all shapes, sizes and ages, and they are people a lot like you and me.
Christian Arguments Against Gay Marriage
Most people (including Christians like myself) have their opinions about homosexuality. Some people—on both sides of the gay marriage debate—are very open about their stance and rather close-minded towards those who don’t wholly agree with them.
As an example, a few of my highschool friends have unfriended me on Facebook, purely because I don’t believe that homosexuality is an acceptable lifestyle. They labeled me as archaic in my thinking. I was even an usher at one of their weddings.
The times are indeed changing.
The Bible’s Arguments Against Gay Marriage & Homosexuality
Does God care how people live sexually? Are there acceptable and unacceptable lifestyles according to God? Certainly people (like myself) have their opinions, but is there an objective right or wrong regarding human sexuality.
Some label homosexuality as merely a choice, a lifestyle. Others claim it is no choice at all but an innate urge they have had since childhood.
But where should the line be drawn regarding the definition of marriage? And who gets to decide what is right and what is wrong in the gay marriage debate?
For the Christian, we must listen to God by what He has revealed in the Bible. For the Christian, we do not bow the knee to cultural preference or even Hollywood’s latest interpretation.
There are some who claim that the Bible does not condemn homosexuality. In fact, the twist the logical interpretation of the texts to make it say something it has never said before. Such biblical misconstruists claim that the Bible verses (such as I list below) are cited out of context and really don’t condemn the loving, honest relationship between two people of the same-sex.
But is that true?
Are Christians completely misrepresenting the God of the Bible, as some say we are? For the most part, no. The truth is that the world wants to change God’s words to suit its sinful desires and the fact is that the Bible condemns both gay marriage and homosexuality as sin.
Bible Verses As Arguments Against Gay Marriage
Here is just a taste of what the Bible says about homosexuality, which provide logical Christian arguments against gay marriage.
- Leviticus 18:22, “You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination.”
- Leviticus 20:13, “If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their blood-guiltiness is upon them.”
- 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, “Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God.”
- Romans 1:26-28, “For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error. And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper.”
God Made Adam And Eve, Not Adam And Steve
Homosexuality is not only condemned in the Bible but it also goes against the created order of God who made Adam, a man, and Eve, a woman—not two men, not two women—to carry out His command to fill and subdue the earth. Homosexuality cannot fulfill that command, physiologically. It is, therefore, an open contradiction to God’s stated design for those created in His image.
This contradiction is a severe one. And, unlike other sins, homosexuality has a heavy judgment administered by God upon those who commit it. This judgment is simple in that they are given over to their passions—which means that their hearts are allowed to be hardened by their sins.
“For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error,” (Romans 1:26-27).
As a result, they can no longer see the error of what they are doing. They will not seek forgiveness. They will die in their sins. They will face God’s holy condemnation. But that isn’t all. In addition to the judgment of being given over to their sin, those involved in it also promote it and condemn others who don’t approve of their behavior.
That’s right, proponents of gay marriage will condemn other people who do not also participate or agree with them.
“…and, although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them,” (Romans 1:32).
So, in their hearty approval of homosexuality they encourage others to be trapped in their sinfulness. They will not trust in Christ’s redemptive work on the cross. Without Jesus, they will have no forgiveness. Without forgiveness, they will have no salvation. Without salvation, there is only damnation in eternal hell.
How Christians Should Respond To Homosexuals & Supporters of Gay Marriage
Just because someone is practicing a homosexual lifestyle does NOT mean that we cannot or should not love him/her, or pray for him/her. Homosexuality is a sin and like any other sin it needs to be dealt with in the only way possible. It needs to be laid at the cross of Jesus Christ and forsaken.
Homosexuality is not a special practice that is exempt from God’s righteous judgment simply because they claim they are born that way, just want to be free to love, or say that it is normal.
For example: All people are born with a tendency to lie, cheat and steal. Does that make it okay if someone lies, cheats or steals?
People want to love each other, but since when is the subjective feeling of love the determiner of what is right and wrong?
We Christians should pray for the salvation of the homosexual the same as we would for any other person trapped in any other sin. This is not an issue of arrogance or judgmentalism. We don’t want anyone to be eternally condemned due to their sin, and that includes gays, lesbians, or other proponents of gay marriage.
The person practicing a homosexual lifestyle is still made in the image of God—even though he or she is living a lifestyle of sexual sin. Therefore, we Christians should show homosexuals the same dignity as anyone else with whom we come in contact with.
Don’t ridicule them. Don’t hate them. Don’t ignore them. Tell them that freedom and forgiveness is found by faith alone in Jesus Christ alone. Let them know that God loves them and died for them and that they too can be delivered from the consequences of sin.
But this does not mean that you or I are to approve of their sin. Don’t compromise your witness for a socially acceptable opinion that is void of godliness and biblical truth! Instead, be kind to them. Be loving. And when the opportunity arises, share the gospel with them.
Can Homosexuals Ever Be Forgiven By God?
Remember, the Bible is our sole authority. God can save anyone, at any time, and from any circumstance or sin. And as the following Bible verse proves, remember that there are many Christians living among us today who were delivered out of that homosexual lifestyle by a most compassionate and loving God.
“Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, will inherit the kingdom of God. Such were some of you; but you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and in the Spirit of our God.” (1 Corinthians 6:9-11; underline is mine).
Praise God that He is the God of second chances!
QUESTION FOR COMMENTING BELOW: Do you agree with the Bible’s arguments against gay marriage, or what it teaches about homosexuality? Why or why not? (Leave a comment below.)